So you must have often heard people say how they stand by their values and how important it is to have them. So let us take a deep dive into what exactly are values and how can one recognize their own values?
By the literal definition provided by Google, Values are nothing but the standard of behabiour or one’s judgment of what is really important in life.
So I’ll share my personal journey that was filled with loads of experiences and emotions that made Me who I am today. Every event that had occured in my life, be it a failed friendship, a past relationship or a small conflict with my parents always brought me closer to understanding the “do’s and don’ts” and that is how I slowly found myself prioritizing my values, which in fact brought me a step closer to understanding the complex human being that I am!
A failed relationship made me realize the importance of communication and compatibility, a failed friendship made me realize the importance of trust and honesty, a conflict with my parents made me realize the importance of understanding a difference in perspective and forgiveness, and that is how I started aligning it all.
The first thing necessary to align your values is to write down the do’s and don’ts or basically what you like or dislike in your favorite friend or a family member. This can be the easiest way to understand what makes you attracted to a friend and what shows you the red flags about them! This is the major step as decoding this, is inturn decoding a part of your own self.
The next thing would be, prioritizing these values for youself. You can do this by probably putting yourself in different situations and consciously catching on the first emotion of which value means more to you or which value can be put a little on hold or later in the list! This can be tricky since I believe values are interrelated and it can get a little blurry but with regular practices and revisiting it again, one can sharpen the priority list over a period of time.
And the last but the most important thing is, to always practice these values. We all have heard how practicing anything for 21 days can convert it into a Habit? That is exactly how one can completely be true to their own values : by practicing it, revisiting it and remembering to show up for yourself time and again!